RanDUMB Blurb #8: Reciprocity

"Tell me who I have to be/Go gain some reciprocity" X-Factor Lauryn Hill

According to Merriam-Webster reciprocity is the the quality or state of being reciprocal : mutual dependence, action, or influence.

Ok now that it's established I can go on with my rant...well it's not really a rant but it is definitely and idea that has crossed my mind a lot. To me reciprocity means simply give and take not just GIVE GIVE GIVE OR TAKE TAKE TAKE!!! I feel as though in friendships and relationships (obviously) there needs to be some type of equal exchange going on. One person can't always be the give/take person. It's not fair and it for damn sure isn't right! When a person really respects you and cares for you they are not always taking from you. I'm going to try and break down the characteristics of both as I have seen in my observations.

The Giver:
This is the person who has the best intentions and always seems to be right on time when there is a problem. You are there for the people you care about and you hope that the feeling is mutual. This person always has an encouraging word or at least tries to give some type of decent advice. The giver really tries to be a genuine friend, and really does their best to make sure that their pal gets through whatever it may be.

The Taker:
This person always needs attention from someone. The taker is slightly selfish, and at times rarely to almost never reciprocates. They think everyone want runs on their time, and always has a problem they want someone else to either solve or help them solve. When it is time for the taker to give advice or to sit and listen...they are either nowhere to be found or don't really have an encouraging or consoling word.

I say this to say one thing: BOTH CAN BE BAD!!!!

Seriously, no one should ever have to constantly give to another person and not get the same in a friendship or relationship. Taking too much too often is despicable, and it's surprising people even tolerate it.

Well that was on my mind...THAT IS ALL

Bye now,
P.R. Reid